For centuries, Christians have looked to Mary as the perfect role model. And yet, as a woman raised in the Jewish tradition, Mary herself was taught what it means to be a virtuous woman. And most likely, that teaching came from Chapter 31 of the Book of Proverbs. This Jewish ideal was recited every week on the eve of the Sabbath as a way of honoring the woman of the house and teaching her daughters how to live.

To the married woman and the single woman, to the young woman and the elderly woman, to those working inside or outside the home, to those women with or without children, this short poem presents a beautiful ideal. It paints a picture of strength and dignity, of caring and compassion, of responsibility and trust, of love and unity. And most important of all, this ideal woman places God first, both in her daily activities and in her heart.

Does this woman sound too good to be true? By all means. In fact, this poem is a composite picture that encompasses all of the women of Israel. It combines all of the talents, skills, and virtues of womanhood rolled into one ideal person.

As idealistic as it may be, this passage presents an ideal that every woman should aim for. Marriage and children are not prerequisites. Seeking God first, developing one’s talents, industriousness, and a servant’s heart—that’s the foundation for the ideal woman. If you are a woman, read Proverbs 31. Commit it to memory. Let it become the goal for your way of living. Both Scripture and church history show us that every woman who follows this model is filled to overflowing with God’s blessings.

“Father, we pray for all women everywhere. May they all come to know your love more deeply and strive to put you first in their lives.”

Questions for Reflection/Discussion by Catholic Men

1. The first reading describes the virtues of a “worthy wife.” How would you summarize them?

2. The last virtue of a “worthy wife” in the first reading is one who “ fears the Lord.” The responsorial psalm picks up on this theme as well, describing the blessings of those who “fear the Lord.” What is the meaning of this virtue, and why is it so important in living our lives as Christian men?

3. The second reading is the conclusion of St. Paul’s discussion of the Second Coming of Christ (see also 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18). When it comes to the Second Coming, why do we need to be “alert and sober”? What steps do you need to take to be more ready for the Second Coming of Christ?

4. In the Gospel parable, the servant who buried his master’s talent said he did it “out of fear.” In what way is the servant’s fear different than the fear of the Lord mentioned in the first reading and the responsorial psalm? Why do you think the servant was so harshly punished?

5. The meditation ends with a prayer for all women. Take some time at the end of your meeting to pray for the women in your life that they would come to know God’s love more deeply and strive to put him first in their lives.”